You’re Not Broken. You’ve Achieved Burnout from Performing at 110 Percent.

You know that feeling when everything technically went fine. You smiled at the right times, followed the plan, hit your deadlines. 

Then you still go home feeling like a fraud who somehow got it wrong.

Or worse, like you’re one inch away from everyone seeing the real you. 

The tired one. 

The disorganized one. 

The one who forgot to answer that email for a week and now thinks they’re a terrible friend.

That’s not failure. That’s burnout.

And more than that, that’s fear.

If you’re someone who’s always had to get it right in order to be accepted, social situations feel loaded, not neutral. 

Like you’re one misstep away from disconnection. 

Or judgment. 

Or some vague, bone-deep feeling that you don’t belong.

So you overcompensate. You read the room, then re-read it. You write the perfect message, then don’t send it. You take on the extra shift, the emotional labor, the caretaking. You try to be excellent, not because you’re ambitious, but because you’re scared.

Excellence becomes armor.

And the minute you stop performing at 110 percent, the guilt hits.

A lot of the perfectionists I work with aren’t Type A in the traditional sense. They’re brilliant and passionate and deeply self-aware. 

And also totally fried.

They’re holding it together by sheer force of will. Managing the group project, the family expectations, the executive dysfunction, the mental health crisis they’re pretending not to be in.

They’re the funny one. The strong one. The one with the plan.

Until they’re not.

And then they crash and assume it’s a personal failing instead of a predictable outcome of living like a pressure cooker for years.

You don’t need to quit your job or abandon your goals to feel better.

You just need to stop pretending you’re fine when you’re actually overwhelmed and lonely and barely holding on.

You need a space where you don’t have to earn your right to exist by being productive or polished.

Where shame is not driving the bus.

Where we talk about scripts and strategies and nervous system regulation, not just processing feelings into the void.

You need someone who gets why you spiral when you disappoint someone. Who can give you tools for un-sticking from the guilt.

And who will probably drop a nerd reference or dark joke along the way because otherwise, what’s the point?

If you’re tired of feeling like the stakes are life or death every time you show up late, drop a ball, or admit you need help, let’s talk.

I work with adults who are ready for practical support, real conversations, and therapy that’s as grounded as it is affirming.

Not a place to perform. 

A place to figure it out.

Book your free 15-minute consultation and let us make space for you.