Not Broken, Just Wired Differently: What Neurodivergence Actually Feels Like

“If you have ever been told you are “too sensitive,” “too dramatic,” “too intense,” or “too passionate” or “a lot” and not in the fun maximalist fashion sense? This is for you.

Being informed you are “too much” is not feedback.

It’s shorthand for “You’re making me uncomfortable, so please shrink yourself.”

And if you have been in therapy before, you might have felt the shrinkage there too. 

Trying to fit into some proscripted small-talky therapy script can reinforce reinforces the idea that therapy is somewhere you need to perform. It’s not. It’s a space where a therapist should let you know that what you say matters. They should try and hold space for you and all your muchness.

This is where therapy for feeling misunderstood comes in. Not the kind that pats you on the back for being self-aware and sends you home empty handed to sit in the same stuck place.

The kind that meets you where your energy lives, whether that is quiet rage, chaotic joy, or the specific existential spiral you save for 2 a.m and gives you something to work with.

Traditional therapy spaces are not always built for outliers.

If you are queer, neurodivergent, living with trauma, or wired for deep-feel and overthink, you can end up being treated like a puzzle that is too complicated to solve. Therapists might misinterpret your intensity as instability or your bluntness as hostility. They might assume your nervous system needs soothing when it actually needs acceptance.

You deserve a space ready for your whole bandwidth.

The high volume.

The sudden plot twists.

The way you can go from meme-level humor to soul-level honesty in 30 seconds flat.

Radically Open-Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT) is designed for people who feel out of sync with the world. It is not about trimming your edges to fit some imaginary “normal.”

It is about building flexibility where rigid patterns have kept you stuck and leaning into openness when your instinct is to armor up.

As a Radically Open-DBT therapist, I don’t want you to mute yourself, especially not for my comfort. I want you to bring the whole messy playlist.

The rage tracks.

The bangers.

The tearjerkers.

The weird ambient noises you cannot quite explain.

This isn’t about fixing who you are. There’s nothing about your personality that needs fixing.

It’s about helping you feel safe enough to show up fully and become skilled enough to navigate life without sacrificing your spark.

• We’ll ditch the clinical script and I’ll talk to you directly. You’re a person, not a case study.

• We do what works. If that means practicing DBT skills, fine. If it means a tactical metaphor sci-fi metaphor or a Sandman quote or or the strategic use of a meme, also fine.

• We challenge each other. I’ll tell you when I think you are avoiding the real work or when I think you’re being mean to yourself, and I’ll listen when you tell me that you’re not comfortable and respect you enough to want you to tell me I’m missing the mark.

• We protect your too much as a valid way of existing while also exploring how you it might be holding you hostage.

The problem was never your passions, or the size of your feelings. The problem is that most rooms, including some therapy rooms, are not built for an unfettered self.

That does not mean you need to shrink.

It means you need a space that can expand with you.

If you are ready to stop apologizing for yourself and start being understood, I offer virtual therapy for feeling misunderstood to residents of Georgia.

If you are craving a space where your muchness is welcome, we can explore that together through radically open therapy.

Your story deserves a therapist who can hold it without flinching.

Book your free 15-minute consultation and let us see if my room that can find space for you. I can’t wait to try with you.