Therapy for People Who Have Tried Therapy

You tried therapy. Maybe more than once and it didn’t work.

Maybe your therapist sat there, silent, while you did emotional gymnastics hoping they’d throw you a rope and maybe they offered advice you could’ve gotten from your aunt’s Facebook feed.

Maybe you left feeling more misunderstood than when you walked in.

You’re not alone.

So many clients come to me after therapy that made them feel small, confused, or worse, like the problem wasn’t what they were carrying, but who they were.

Let’s talk about what happens when therapy hasn’t worked—and what can happen when it finally does.

When therapy is done badly, it reinforces the stories that already keep you stuck.

If you’re neurodivergent: Your brain is broken.

If you’re queer or trans: Your identity is a problem to solve.

If you’re living with trauma: Your survival is a pathology.

Bad therapy tells you to get more “normal.”

Good therapy helps you live more fully in your truth.

If you’ve walked away feeling gaslit, judged, or unheard?

That’s not your failure.

You didn’t fail therapy. Therapy failed you.

Let’s call it what it is.

You’ve worked with therapists who:

Described their work as affirming, but struggled to engage with your lived experience.

Needed you to do the heavy lifting of explaining what it’s like to navigate your identity.

Lost their footing when conversations turned toward trauma, racism, ableism, or systemic harm.

These aren’t quirks. They’re clinical gaps.

Gaps you’ve been falling through your whole life.

So what changes when the fit is right?

Everything.

A therapist who gets it won’t just nod while you talk. They’ll reflect what you’re not saying. 

Track the patterns under the words and offer frameworks and strategies that feel made for you, not for some hypothetical “average” client.

They’ll know the language of masking. The ache of identity-based trauma. The fatigue of navigating systems that never seem built with you in mind.

And they’ll meet you there. Not as a fixer. Not as a guru. But as a co-navigator.

Therapy for feeling misunderstood starts with being understood.

If you’ve spent your life being misunderstood, it makes sense that therapy might feel like just another room where you have to explain yourself. Again.

But that’s not what therapy should be.

If you’re queer, therapy should be a space where your identity is held with curiosity, not suspicion.

If you’re neurodivergent, therapy should support your brain, not treat it like a problem. 

If you’re navigating religious trauma, racism, or ableism, therapy should name that—not ignore it.

Too often, therapy focuses on symptoms, not systems. On fixing you, not freeing you.

But the truth is, many of the things that make you feel “too much” are exactly what make you powerful. 

Therapy should help you reclaim that.

Online LGBTQ therapist Georgia might sound like a search string, but it’s also a life raft.

It means finding the right therapist for you, not the closest “therapist near me”.

Online therapy means a therapist who meets you where you are—literally and emotionally.

When done right, online therapy doesn’t dilute the work.

It deepens it.

No waiting rooms. No parking lots.

No sitting across from someone who once misgendered you.

You are in your own space. That matters.

How do you know when therapy actually works?

• You feel seen—without having to teach.
• You leave sessions with clarity, not confusion.
• Your therapist names dynamics without defensiveness.
• You feel emotionally safe and intellectually challenged.
• You’re not doing their job for them.

If therapy hasn’t worked before, it’s easy to think you’re the common denominator.

That maybe you don’t “do therapy right.”

You do.

Therapy isn’t one-size-fits-all.

It should adapt to you.

If you’ve been dismissed, misunderstood, or boxed in, hear this:

You are not too much.

You are not broken.

You are not asking for too much.

You’re asking for care that sees you.

That’s what therapy should be.

If you’re searching for an online LGBTQ therapist Georgia clients trust to hold their full humanity, you’re not asking for too much.

You just haven’t found your room yet.

Let’s change that.

Related Pages:

• Blog: Can’t Force Rightness of Fit
• About Working with Me